Mindful Relationship Choices


This image was created by my little one when she was four. I tried to hang it above my piano recently and rather unsuccessfully so I just set it on top along side some photos and knick knacks. One of those being this block saying;”Quiet the mind, and the soul will speak.” A peaceful reminder of how I want to live. The artwork reminds me of the scattered mess my mind can become. It also reminds of all the creativity and beauty that lies within myself and the world.

This week brought some incredibly challenging situations for me and unfortunately my ability to see the beauty in transformation and growth got lost in my pain and my scattered mind. Victor Frankl said,”Between stimulus and response, there is space. In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom.” It is in the those moments of silence that we will find the answers to how we should respond to the person or the situation. If we do not, we suffer and stunt our own growth.

Sometimes we get stuck. We get stuck with ideas of who we think we should be or how we believe people should treat us. We have a history and life story that has lead us to behave a certain way including engaging in situations repeatedly that come from a mindless place and do not serve us or those we care about. We have expectations that our future looks a certain way and we take people for a ride with us thinking that they are part of the story and we make them part of the problem. Deepak Chopra says;”Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, let the mind remain in the present moment.”

Although I did not remain as present as I would have liked this week, I was reminded that relationships show us exactly what we need to learn. I learned that I won’t hold on so tightly. I learned, again, that true freedom lies with awareness and to have that I  must allow myself and my scattered mind to have the space it needs to remember my soul’s desires. It is in that frame of mind and space that I am able to think, speak, and act mindfully allowing me to live an empowered, authentic, and peaceful life. Does it get any better than that :)?

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