Overcoming Racism and Hate. Finding Peace…

You don’t fight for peace, you peace for peace.

This week I am facing a challenging and painful situation where my white, 7 year old daughter was tormented and called a racists by multiple classmates. (She doesn’t even know what that means). My daughter was also blamed for something she didn’t even say. No child heard her, but a child made up a story that suited her and shared it. As the truth unravels I am seeing clearly the problems in our society AND it begins with the adults.

Children are not born hating anyone. They don’t even see skin color. They are taught to hate because of their parents. Parents projecting their own unresolved issues and pain on their children. And then… sadly these once innocent children believe that they are already victims and they in turn hurt other children.

If we as a society are going to fix the hatred that exists regardless if it be religion, skin color, sexuality, income level, or whatever…it begins with the adults being accountable for managing their emotions and choosing to heal so that all thinking, speaking, and acting originate from a peaceful place of clarity instead of a space of defensiveness and blame. You do not fight for peace, you peace for peace.

If you seek world peace or even peace in your house or neighborhood look past the differences, develop self-awareness and emotional intelligence. AND seriously just be honest and kind.

Mindful suggestions for overcoming hate and finding peace:

*Figure out what it is you fear and why.

*Find out what the story is you tell yourself about other races, religions, or anyone you don’t like? Is is true or are YOU the one passing judgement?

*Your feelings and experiences are valid. Your judgement and blame are not. Work them out and do not take them out on innocent people.

*Decide if you want to be a victim or if you want to heal. Victim or empowered change maker? It is your choice.

* Everyone has at least one story that will break your heart. Have some compassion.

*Consider that not everything is about you. The other person may have no idea and may have not even intended harm. ASK yourself; “Did they intentionally hurt me?” If not, go within, ask for help, and move on.

Peace, Blessings, Joy, and Love to you all,

Amy McCae

Certified Life Coach and Mindfulness Meditation Teacher and MORE

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Amy specializes in helping leaders overcome self-doubt and overwhelm so they can have clarity, confidence, and peace of mind. She offers Mindfulness Matters an accredited online course with or without Life Coaching to individuals and corporations. Amy also as offers classes, presentations, and seminars and several types of energetic healing work.

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Mindfulness Matters is an accredited, neuroscience based, emotional intelligence program created for developing visionary and conscious leaders. Many leaders struggle with self-doubt and overwhelm. This course insures you gain clarity, confidence, success, and will even help improve your relationships and health!!

Amy spent her childhood dreaming of being a doctor only to watch her mother die of cancer when she was 20. Her life took an entirely different direction after that and she spent much of her 20’s sick with chronic illnesses.

One day Amy was too sick to take care of her newborn baby and she had to crawl to the phone to call for help. Amy then went on a quest to heal and looked in places she never knew existed before that day. AND she healed largely through fitness, nutrition, and meditation.

Through that experience Amy rediscovered a passion for helping others. She is committed to excellence and to making a difference in the world.

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Presents or Presence? Mindfulness and Generosity for a Happy and Peaceful Holiday Season

What if this year instead of only giving presents you gave the gift of your presence? Now don’t wrap yourself in a box or let your ego get involved here… What I am suggesting is that you be more present, that you be more mindful. 

The idea of being “present” may seem vague but it simply means to be fully here in this moment. Get out of your head, forget the “to do” list, quit regretting the past, quit fearing the future. No, it is not hard. Simply take a breath and come back to this moment in time. Take many, many mindful breaths. You give the gift of someone being heard and validated when you are present when in their presence. This is generosity. If you can come from this frame of mind when dealing with a difficult boss or employee to patient, a child throwing a tempter tantrum, or a crazy relative you will have peace of mind.

Generosity is mindfully giving in a way that makes you feel good.

Monday mornings I volunteer to teach mindfulness to elementary students.  I was amazed at the children’s ideas on ways they could express generosity.  From picking up dropped pencils, to opening up doors, to sharing, to simply offering to see how they can be of help. All simple acts of kindness. 

Sometimes we think we need to give “BIG” for it to be significant. Or that what we give needs to be concrete or visual for it to matter. That is not true.

What if your boss, employee, or patient really needs a break or has personal issues far beyond average? What if the child that appears to be out of control having a meltdown is simply tired, hungry or over stimulated? What if the crazy relative has financial issues or depression? Would you respond to them differently knowing these things? Why? Why not just be generous with kindness because it feels good to give?

To be understanding, to offer validation, to give a hug, to smile, to express gratitude, to laugh, to be present, to offer your time, your expertise, your help and your support, and to be present, these are the presents worth giving. Random, simple, acts of kindness. This is generosity.

Be present. Be mindful. Be kind. Be generous. It will all come back to you tenfold and rest assured you will be blessed with happiness and peace of mind.

What ways will be present and generous?

Amy McCae

Certified Life Coach and Mindfulness Meditation Teacher

www.amymccae.com

Free phone consultation https://amymccae.as.me/

Amy McCae is a Life Coach and Mindfulness Meditation Teacher in Omaha, Nebraska. She is passionate about healing and helping others and especially about mindfulness and emotional intelligence.

Amy spent her childhood dreaming of being a doctor only to watch her other die of cancer when she was 20. Her life took an entirely different direction after that and she spent much of her 20’s sick with chronic illnesses.

One day Amy was too sick to take care of her newborn baby and she had to crawl to the phone to call for help. Amy then went on a quest to heal and looked in places she never knew existed before that day. AND she healed largely through fitness, nutrition, and meditation.

The experience allowed her to rediscover her passion for healing and helping others. Amy now holds numerous certifications allowing her to be of support to individuals and organizations. Mindfulness Matters is an accredited 8-week online course rooted in science and inspired by her desire to help others develop emotional intelligence (especially leaders and those struggling with self-doubt and overwhelm). Please contact Amy for more information and to sign up!

Spirituality and Death

Being a holistic practitioner I am often curious about the body, mind, and of course, spirit. This curiosity lead me to many experiences in learning about life, death, and spirit. These experiences would transform my life. This past week brought several deep reminders of what death means. The subject of death and dealing with potentially terminally ill family came up at a meeting I host, Evolving Minds. Tomorrow, Saturday morning marks 20 years since my mother left this world. The past 6 months brought two eye opening experiences about my own mortality, and the past 10 years have been filled with surprises from the spiritual world.

I was only 20 when I lost my mother. She was only 41. As I sit here 40 years old and 20 years later I can not imagine being in her place. I can not imagine knowing I was going to die and leave my children. I have no idea how one prepares for such an event. I do not know what she would be like much past my own age now. I often wonder what kind of grandmother she would be and if she would be proud of who I grew up to be. And I even wonder what she would look like since I look so much like her. There is something that changes in a person when one reaches the age of their parent’s death. There is something that changes within a daughter when she loses a mother so young and spends decades wondering what it would be like to have a mother. The pain I felt eventually lead me to peace.

I have never believed in actual death. I have always believed that there was some part of me that would transcend this world. What that may look like or feel like I do not know, but I am receiving glimpses. My 40th birthday was in May and close to that time I had an experience that left me confident that there was an aspect of me that was not my physical body. That part of me was free. I spent the day crying and convincing myself that it was ok stay, I had things to finish here. I vowed to remember those feelings of peace and freedom and to carry them with me in this world. Then, late this summer I had an episode where I lost consciousness and someone had to revive me. I have no recollection of the event. Everything was black. And I wondered if that was what death was like?

Over the past 10 years I have had countless experiences that were not of this world. Some of them included loved ones who have passed. I do not have an explanation for this. I have tried to use science and that helps, but it can not really express the magnitude of such experiences. I am forever grateful to those loved ones that have reappeared reminding me that death is not real. Reminding me that some aspect of them is still with me. Thank you mom, Mr. Hennessey, Felix, and Ben Johnson. I loved you when you were here and I love you now.

These experiences allow me to have a greater respect for life. I take things a little slower, I am a little easier on myself, things that bothered me are easier to let go of, and I love people and experiences so much more deeply. I honor the experiences, even the painful ones like the loss of loved ones. Those experiences remind me of who I AM. Today, take some time to honor your life and your path and to also honor those that may no longer be here with you in the same way. Those loved ones may be closer than you thought.

Namaste,
Amy McCae
Holistic Life Coach
http://www.amymccae.com